Boost Your Confident

You might have already read and learned how to be confident, but what if you still don't feel all that confident? Sometimes it takes your emotions a little bit of time to catch up with your behaviors, but you can help to move the process along. Perhaps all you really need is some working out and dressing up to feel better, or maybe you can start with thinking positively and smiling more often. In any case, feeling confident is definitely a continuous process that, when achieved, will improve your quality of life immensely.

Tricking Your Brain

Think positively. When it comes down to it, reality is perception. If you feel confident, you are. If life is falling apart around you but you don't notice, it's not really falling apart, now is it? So get on thinking those happier thoughts! You're not deluding yourself one way or another -- don't worry that you're being silly for thinking positively -- you're just taking control.

• When you catch yourself thinking, "God, I'm so fat," STOP. Go back. Reframe. Say it again, only this time think, "I'm unhappy with my weight. What am I doing about it?" It doesn't have to be all sunshine and rainbows; you just have to be less hard on yourself.
• Positive thinking leads to a positive, more confident disposition. You know what happens when you think negatively about yourself? It becomes habit and all of a sudden you're thinking negatively about everything. You become gossip-y and complain-y and one of those people that is always putting something else down. Gross.

Be grateful. Alright, so you've read the How to Think Positively article, too, and you're still at a loss? Then just start with being grateful. The more things you realize you have going for you the more you can sit back and go, "Huh. I guess life is pretty darn okay." The only sad part is how easily we forget what we have!

• Seriously. You probably have working body parts, clothes on your back, talents (what are they?), people who love you, and a future, just for starters. That's the stuff most people have (or at least most people on wikiHow) -- what else do you have that's unique to you?

• Switch up your environment. Think about the person you are at home, the person you are at school, the person you are at work, the person you are at your favorite cafe, etc. Probably not the same person, huh? Odds are that there's an environment or two where you feel more comfortable and more confident. So if you're in a place where you don't feel confident, get up and move!

• Okay, so you can't get up in the middle of dinner and mince your way over to McDonald's unfortunately. But the next time you find yourself feeling not-so-great, think about where you are. Knowing it might be a cause of your environment and not you takes the pressure off!